I’ve got good news and bad news. Which one do you want first? Well the good news is that the warmer temps we’ve experienced this past week (well some of us) along with the calendar indicates that cuffing season is winding down. The bad news is, while it may be coming to a close, it’s also coming to a climax with its main event, the big SHABANG, the grand finale: VALENTINE’s DAY! If you want some encouragement for the season, I blogged about it here. But today I want to give you some alternatives that will distract you from all those lovey dovey photos that will be posted and engagements that will be announced. Here’s a little secret: Half of those couples are not even real, are in unhappy relationships, or won’t even make it to the altar. So wait for the real thing, the quality products always take more time to produce….but I digress. Back to the V-day alternatives:
1. Treat Yo self- If you are single and there is any day you decided that you’re just going to splurge on yourself, this would be the day. Buy yourself a nice gift, take yourself out (ok maybe not take yourself on the 14th since there will be way too many couples out and that would be a little weird lol) but maybe fix yourself an amazing dinner at home or go to a quiet, secret place that you really enjoy. Maybe watch a movie or skip the gym and have a cheat day with some of your favorite indulgences. Whatever it is, do something that makes you happy and shower yourself with an abundance of LOVE. You deserve it! Besides, you have to learn to love yourself, flaws and all before you open up yourself to be loved by another human being.
2. Sow into a married couple- I am such a proponent of sowing into the lives of people. When you sow it does not have to be monetary. Luke 6:38 says: Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. It does not specify money, which tells me that I could give anything and it will be given back unto me. So give a labor of love. Sow your time into a couple who maybe has kids and babysit for them. If you want to sow financially you can do that too. Maybe purchase a gift card to a restaurant so that they can enjoy a nice dinner. Trust me, these things come back to you when it’s your time, and it comes back in an even greater measure; my husband and I are witnesses of that. But don’t do it just because you are expecting something in return; that is not why we sow. We sow because we want to be a blessing to other people. Trust me, it will make you feel so good when you can make someone else’s day. After all, it is better to give than to receive (Acts 20:35).
3. Celebrate with friends- I did this once and it was so fun! You can go out on Valentine’s day with a friend or a couple of friends or you can even throw a Valentine’s Day party for all of your single friends. Go on Pinterest and get creative, play games, make a vision board, eat all of the chocolate your little heart desires. You will be surprised at how being around other people who you love in your life can make such a huge difference and get your mind off of not having a date.
In all seriousness though, whatever you do, decide that you are going to think only about all the GOOD things that are happening in your life right now. Gratitude opens up the door for more and it shifts the atmosphere of your heart. You can’t be down and depressed if you are filled with thankfulness. Before any man ever bought you a bouquet of roses, took you out for a fancy dinner, or showered you with hugs and kisses, a man name Jesus displayed the greatest act of love there is when he was beaten, suffered and died for you on a cross at Calvary and reconciled you to Himself. DO NOT take that for granted. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends -John 15:13
Still Hidden in Him,