Can I be honest with you? I never actually thought I would get married. Of course I’ve always had the desire, but I didn’t really think that marriage was something that I, Orethia formerly known as Morant would actually attain. And even if by some chance I actually did become someone’s wife, I figured it would be one of those shotgun weddings down at the courthouse as a way for my longtime boyfriend to oblige me after putting up with him and being his ride or die for almost a decade. This was my thinking B.C. After all, before moving to Atlanta, I had never even attended a wedding, let alone seen any examples of great marriages. However, once I got saved and decided that I was going to live for God FOR REAL THIS TIME, something deep down inside of me actually began to believe that I was someone’s wife. I didn’t know when I would get married or to who, but for once in my life I actually began to believe that having a happy healthy marriage with a godly man was attainable for me. Yes me- the young girl from the inner cities neither raised by her mother or father, the girl who stayed in an abusive relationship for way longer than she should have, the girl who slept with with numerous guys outside of marriage, yes ME; it was all possible through Christ. When I read in 2 Corinthians 5:17 that I was a new creature in Christ, that the old things had passed away, and that all things were made new, I actually believed it. I hid that Word in my heart and spoke it over my life anytime the enemy tried to spew his lies and tell me any different.
Maybe for whatever reason, you’re having a hard time believing that you are someone’s wife or that you can have a happy, healthy marriage. Maybe you’ve seen so many fail or maybe you’ve just been waiting for so long that you’re just about ready to give up. Well I want to help you renew your hope and remind you that marriage was God’s idea, and He has not changed His mind about it or you. Here are 3 reasons why God wants you to be married:
1. You can accomplish more with a partner- Deuteronomy 32:30 says this: one man can chase a thousand, and 2 can put 10 thousand to flight...Now math has never been my strongest subject, but it would seem that when two people come together for one cause, there is a lot more that can be done. Now, from what I’ve read about God in the Bible, He is thee best business man there is-always looking to maximize and receive the best return on His investments. Take the parable of the talents (which symbolizes the Kingdom of God) outlined in Matthew 24:14-30 for example. When the person who was given 1 talent, did not come back with a return on the investment, the master was not happy about it and even gave their talent to the person who had the largest return on their investment. Are you still following me? If there is one thing that I have learned about God over the last few years, it is that He is very purposeful. Nothing with Him is ever wasted. He does everything with intentionality, and so I try to keep this characteristic in mind whenever I am facing any circumstance. God always has an agenda, and the Bible tells us that it is His purpose and HIs plans that will always prevail (Proverbs 19:21). So you’re probably thinking “What does all of this have to do with my relationship status?” Well a lot actually. Whether you are single or married, you have an important role in the Body of Christ if you are a believer. When two people come together in the covenant of marriage, God has a purpose for that couple to fulfill as one and He adds a special anointing and a certain grace as well as favor in order to see it come to pass. I remember when My now husband and I were just friends and we attended the same small group at church. We had absolutely no idea that we would end up married and were not even attracted to one another. At the end of this particular small group, a woman had a prophetic Word for the group stating that God was going to put two people together from this group and they would get married. She went onto say that they could not fulfill their purpose apart from one another, but that once they get married, they would be able fulfill their God-given purposes. I began to search the room with my eyes wondering who it could be and trying to put people together in my head. As much as I wanted that Word to be for me, I just knew it couldn’t be because I was not in any way shape or form interested in anyone in that room, and I was convinced that my husband was outside of the four walls of that church. Well, boy was I wrong because John and I actually ended up dating and getting married less than 3 years later. God brought back this incident to my remembrance while John and I were engaged , and I was just amazed at how that played out. God has a specific plan and purpose for each and everyone of us, and while it may not necessarily mean that you and your husband will go into ministry together, it does mean that He has a specific purpose for your life and your union.
2. Marriage is a picture of Jesus and His church- I really feel as though there is an attack on marriages headed by our adversary, Satan himself. This is evident in the way media portrays it and the way it is perverted every day. One of the main reasons I believe it’s being attacked in such a way is because marriage is supposed to be a picture of Jesus and His church- the bride and the bridegroom. The same way Jesus loves and laid down His life for His church is the same way a husband is called to love and lay down his life for his wife (Ephesians 5:25) Marriage is supposed to be an example of the strong, selfless Christ kind of love that is meant to be on display for the world to see. It is a love that pursues, a love that endures and a love that never fails.This dying world needs to see that type of love on display. Another reason I believe it is being attacked is because Satan knows the value of having men in their rightful places in the home and family. Mark 3:27 says that no one can enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man. That tells me that the man is so valuable. I believe that many issues in society and especially with our youth could be remedied if men all over would begin to take their rightful place in the homes and be godly husbands and fathers. The scripture illustrates that in order to get to everything and everyone else in the home, the strong man must first be taken down. If there is no strong man present, everyone and everything is left vulnerable and is susceptible to attack.
3. God desires godly seed- The very first commandment that God spoke to his prized creation (man) in Genesis 1:28 was to “be fruitful and multiply. Furthermore, Malachi 2:15 tells us that God desires godly offspring from our unions. He wants there to be more children being raised up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4) so that there can be generations of people fulfilling the work of the Lord and advancing His Kingdom here on the earth. These are also good scriptures to stand on if you are already married and believing God for a child.
So you see that desire in your heart for a godly marriage, for companionship, for a man of God- as long as you are not making it an idol, it is God who placed it there. And the Bible says that if we delight ourselves in Him then He will give us the desires of our heart (Psalm 37:4). What does that mean? That means that you find your joy in spending time with the Father, building your relationship and setting your affection on Him. Be intentional about praying and reading your Word and eventually His desires for you will become your own desire. And because it is His desire for you then it will be Him who will make it come to pass. You don’t have to do anything to try to make it happen on your own. There is no need to frequent certain places, try to attend different churches and events, post certain things on social media or anything else to try to manipulate the system and find a man. The right man will find you because it is all apart of God’s perfect plan and will for your life. Do you believe that?
Still Hidden in Him,